Have you ever awaken one morning, looked over at your spouse, and thought,
“Oh my Lord, I’m really married! How did I get here? Did I make the right decision? Who is this person that I married?” At some point in our lives, most of us have had these thoughts race through our minds during the early morning hours.

I remember hearing a statement from an elderly woman years ago that really made me think. She said, “Baby, marriage is for grown folk.” I thought of a few people I knew who were married but never seemed very grown up to me. In fact, they often acted like children. Nevertheless, I realized that marriage is something a couple should enter with their eyes open, not with an assumed hope that all will just automatically go well. “Marriage is for grown folk” and it should always be approached with caution.

As I continued to observe the lives of others, I became very aware that marriage could be like heaven on earth if it is God-led and God-breathed experience. When God joins two mature people together, marriage can be the union of two destinies flowing in harmonious rhythm. If the couple walks together with God, they will be able to stride through the highs and lows of life without ever skipping a beat.

If God is not recognized as the third member of that marriage, however, that couple won’t tap into a supernatural flow and rhythm. If He is not allowed to lead and guide their relationship, that couple will get out of sync with each other. In this scenario, the two parties are left asking themselves one big question: Who is this that I married?